All people worry to some extent. When someone doesn’t seem to be worried about real risks, that can be a problem. We come equipped with an inclination to be afraid of things that might actually hurt us, so that we can protect ourselves. The degree to which someone worries is usually established in childhood, and it depends a lot on how much the person was protected from frightening experiences and overwhelming feelings as a helpless child.

Children need protective parents and caregivers who can keep them from having to deal with situations they are not yet ready to cope with, and who can reassure and comfort them when they are distressed. This forms the basis of self-confidence and the ability to take reasonable risks in life without being consumed by worry.

In an ideal situation, a child grows up with the ability to try new experiences that are developmentally appropriate, at first with a parent by his side to offer encouragement and a safety net, if something goes wrong. Along the way, the child learns how to avoid danger, using her own feelings of worry or fear as a guide. When faced with a challenge, such as getting up in front of the class to speak, a healthy child can put aside worry or fear enough to be able to do what needs to be done.

Unfortunately, some people don’t get this kind of start in life, and some are more naturally inclined to feel anxious. This often leads to an experience of life as constantly anxiety-provoking. It may show up as intense shyness (social phobia), as a strong fear of something specific, such as spiders or enclosed spaces, or as a general feeling of anxiety about everything.

Sometimes attempts to deal with high levels of anxiety turn into problem behaviors, such as in obsessive-compulsive disorder or hair-pulling (trichotillomania) or other self-harm. When anxiety is extreme, panic attacks can occur, or someone may be afraid to leave home, even for a short time.

How do you know whether your worries are normal or signs of a bigger problem that needs treatment? If you are experiencing so much worry that you can’t enjoy your life, or your relationships are negatively affected, or you are not functioning up to your abilities at work, then it is likely that you need help in order to see improvement.

Because anxiety problems often begin early in life, you may feel used to feeling the way you do, and it may be hard to see how much anxiety is impacting your life. Treatment is often most effective with a combination of psychotherapy and medication, and symptom relief usually can occur quickly.

Medication can immediately reduce symptoms and can sometimes be reduced or discontinued within a few months. Psychotherapy is needed for reducing anxiety and for getting to the root of the problem, so that change can be lasting.

Dr. Jordan specializes in treating anxiety, stress, trauma, and self-esteem problems, through a personalized therapeutic plan. With over 16 years experience and training, she can help you achieve a sense of well-being and satisfaction with yourself, your relationships, and your life.

Margaret Jordan, PhD
06-16-09

Source: http://www.drmargaretjordan.com

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